Mimi Donaldson  
  AUTHOR • SPEAKER • LEADER   

Necessary Roughness - New Rules for the Contact Sport of Life, by nationally known speaker Mimi Donaldson
MIMI DONALDSON
In her new book
Necessary Roughness: New Rules for the Contact Sport of Life, Mimi Donaldson teaches “women how to watch football.” And women are “a natural” for this contact sport that mimics life, because they have commitment, they’re great team players, good leaders and in tune with intention, which “makes you unstoppable.” The efficiency of the game, offense and shaking things off so you can move forward: They’re all here in Mimi’s Necessary Roughness. Order your copy now

 



Mimi's Bio

Since 1984, Mimi has spoken at over 900 events in dozens of industries, in over 100 cities across North America and to audiences throughout Europe. Mimi has spoken at company events for 32 of the Fortune 500, 18 of which are listed in the Fortune 100. She holds a Masters Degree in Instructional Design from Columbia University and was a staff Human Resources Specialist with Walt Disney Company, Northrop Aircraft, and Rockwell International.

Mimi has been a featured guest on countless radio stations including KABC Radio in Los Angeles and numerous television appearances including Good Day New York. She’s been the subject of over 200 articles in newspapers and magazines, having been featured in the Chicago Tribune, Boston Globe, Denver Post, Ladies Home Journal, and Harvard Management Review.

Mimi has shared the stage with such notable celebrities as Colin Powell, Elizabeth Dole, Maya Angelou, and Katie Couric.

Mimi's Own Words
Mimi on her, ahem, other qualifications.
"Be Bold & Mighty Forces Will Come to Your Aid."
     – Basil King

This is one of the statements I live by. I heard Anthony Hopkins quote it on Inside the Actor's Studio, one of my favorite interview shows.

The best way I've found to be bold is to laugh at life, and at ourselves! People are bold when they feel confidence and competent. It's easier to be bold when you know what you're doing. I believe everything is either for our entertainment or our education. So, if it's not fun, I must be learning. But I believe education can and should be entertaining. Maybe if education were more entertaining, more people would be well educated!

I was raised with a comedic view of the world. Mom and Dad introduced us to the fabulous comedy of Sid Caesar, Imogene Coca, Milton Berle and even Lenny Bruce. As children, my little brother and I memorized "2000 Year Old Man" routines and Nichols and May comedy sketches to perform around the house. Mom and Dad, who were a very literate and cultural duo, thought my take on reality was smart and destined for greatness. "One day you'll be a star," my mother would tell me. She knew I was gifted in comedy and singing and thought it was only a matter of time. Little did she know I'd end up entertaining people in suits all day long. I think she thought it would be a little more glamorous, you know, with Broadway openings, red carpets, and caviar (which I never did learn to like).

I did have lots of leading roles in high school plays, college musicals and summer stock, but my start in television was purely innocent. In fact, my parents got their first television the month I was born. That was my birth present. I have a photo of my mother nursing me with a bottle in front of a humongous square cabinet encasing a tiny oval screen. I brought the photo to my college communications class on McLuhan at the professor's request. He thought it was a perfect example of a McLuhan age orientation to life.

My father is a doctor and I think deep down he always hoped one of us would go into the medical field. We come from a long line of brilliant doctors. As it turned out, my brother is the M.D, and my sister, a speech pathologist. It was a revelation when Dad said, "You know Mimi, what you do is a mixture of mental health and showbiz." He was right. But now I've gotten ahead of myself.

After college, I went to drama school in England for a year. My goal was to be Shakespearean trained. I had been a drama major in college, but it was "the ultimate" to study at a prestigious acting academy in London. I was on my way, or so I thought.

When I got back to the States, I went to New York to become a "star." My first audition was up a filthy flight of stairs in a smelly studio in the middle of Times Square. When the sweaty little man told me to "take off your clothes, honey," I thought one of my drama school buddies had recruited this guy for a practical joke. I declined in my best British accent, "You must be joking."

"No little girl, this is a nudie show --'Oh Calcutta'-- so take off your clothes." Shocked, I muttered something and made a quick exit-stage left. For the first time, Times Square looked dirty to me (what I could see of it through a waterfall of my own tears). That was my first and last audition for Broadway. I decided to play to the captive audiences of the classroom instead. I enrolled at Teachers College, Columbia University to become a "star" of the teaching world.

For the last 25 years I've been a teacher--first, a teacher of teachers at Teachers College, Columbia University--then a teacher of managers, business owners, engineers, secretaries, doctors and nurses, and customer service people. And education has always been entertaining when I'm doing it. That's not as boastful as it sounds--I've always laughed at my own jokes. So, if I'm going to teach, I ought to enjoy the process.

My efforts resulted one day in 1982 with a challenge from a group of my "students" who were first-level managers at Northrop Aircraft: "Why don't you try being a stand-up comic?"
Piece of cake! The folks in my classrooms were always in stitches. Why not entertain the world with my wit and get paid for it to boot?

I took a ten-week comedy class. Each member of our class put together a seven-minute routine. We debuted at The Improvisation, a popular Los Angeles comedy club, to a full house packed with critics-all our friends and relatives. The critics raved. I was a smash hit. I was ready to launch my new career with comic lines about weight control, being single, and shopping as an emotional experience. I brought down the house. They made a videotape. My mother still invites total strangers into her house to watch the videotape of her daughter, the stand-up comic.

Fueled with heady enthusiasm from by brilliant debut, I set forth to capture Los Angeles. I performed in other comedy clubs, but my friends and family weren't in the audience. Without them to appreciate my rapier wit and brilliant comedic patter, comedy quickly turned from frolic to labor. And the pay was worse than the audience. It always cost me more to perform that I got paid for doing it.

The hours were a nightmare. After half the night in the shadows of a smoke-filled room, it would be my turn to go on stage to the accompaniment of dozens of Bics flicking and glasses clinking. For seven minutes, I'd deliver my side-splitting monologue to a half-filled room of solemn-looking people who were clearly waiting for someone famous to show up. At two in the morning, I'd drive home and fall into bed just to get up in time to get to work at Northrop by eight a.m.

I am an escapee from the human potential movement. In the 60's Jimi sang, "Are you experienced?" I am experienced. I am experienced in TM, est, Course in Miracles, holistic healing, Swami Muktananda, astral travel, Baba Ram Dass, and spirulina. Also, aura reading, numerology, breathing yoga, tarot cards, Zen meditation, reflexology, channeling, astrology, psychic readings, and magnets as a healing thereapy. I've used affirmations, mediations and mantras. I memorized The Prophet, bought all the George Winston audio cassettes, and practiced self-hypnosis and psycho-cybernetics.

And I got over most of it. I'm now a converted capitalist. And my mother, who knows these things, says the newly converted are the most fervent of anyone.

Human potential processess aren't useless. And capitalism isn't bad -- taken in moderation. As long as you don't let either one become your religion. I now know you can be "enlightened" without being self-conscious about it -- and you don't have to proselytize. People will change their behavior when they want to. My talent and mission is to entertain and educate. I like to tell people, "Maturity is a measurement of how long you can put off a gratification." And I am passionate with business people that you must put off a "hot buttons" response ("I'm just sure...does it look like I have four hands?") for a long-term result.

I teach people to be bold. To be bold is to tell the truth to someone who needs to hear it. It takes courage to mean what you say, and to resist the urge to say it "mean." At the end of L. Frank Baum's Wizard of OZ, when the Lion requests courage, the Wizard tells him he already has it. The Wizard says, "All you need is some visible manifestation so everyone will know you have it." I give people the courage and tools to communicate to get results. When they see the visible result, they know they have been successful. For me, the process is always comedy, even with a lump in my throat. If you can laugh at it, it won't get you.


Mimi 's Hairshare

"Some people have Bad Hair Days. I've just gone through a Bad Hair year!"
Mimi Donaldson, June 2000

So, what's the deal with all the different looks? Mimi's been seen sporting a myriad of colors over the last few years, and she's become nearly as famous for her different shades as she is for her winning speeches. Here, for the first time, get the real scoop. And, we don't mean 31 flavors… There are only three options in this hair repertoire.
So far, that is.

One of the traits that endears Mimi to thousands of people is her authenticity. She is herself in every situation. Whether Mimi is on stage in front of thousands of people, or writing books for an international readership, she tells the truth about her life in humorous detail, for the purpose of entertaining and enlightening her audience. Mimi is not afraid of what people think, and is wildly entertaining with her humor-packed stories about herself, and her musings on life in general.

Mimi is a comedian in that she states the obvious in a original way. People frequently remark that she exposes the things they haven't had the guts to face. And, because she does it in a non-threatening, sidesplitting style, people laugh. Mimi understands that people don't change through being lectured to; they change through hearing truth, mixed with humor. "What better way to accomplish that than to make myself the example," she says. "And, to be deeply honest."

Mimi's sharings are so similar to what other people experience that people say: "Gosh, I didn't realize that my life is so funny, but it is. I can either laugh about it or complain about it. Since Mimi is laughing about her life, maybe I can laugh at my own." Mimi believes that if you can laugh at whatever ails you, it won't get you. It can't control you.

Which brings us to her Hair Sharings. Let's hear Mimi's thoughts on this much talked about subject. To set the record straight once and for all…

Over a certain age, everyone dyes their hair! Let's get real! Ninety-nine percent of women in the speaking world who are graying, and even some of the men, have dye jobs. That's just the way it is. I've been on the platform with many internationally respected women, and let me tell you, they all dye their hair! I was determined to be different, a trailblazer to love my authentic silver locks. I would stick it out and be proud of my "courage." In the beginning, that was easy. I hadn't become jaded. Yet.

Okay, I admit it; I'm a proselytizer. When I do something new, I think it's the best thing since sliced bread. So when I let my gray hair show in 1990, I loved it and went around telling people how real I was. It was a great bonding tool with other women. So many were drawn to my naturally beautiful silver hair. I soon discovered that many women wished they could stop dyeing their own hair. They would come up to me after speeches and say, "Are those little black edges around your face natural, or do you do that?" Then I'd hear the "if only" statements that women do: "If only my hair would look like yours, I would let it grow out."

My streak of hair self-righteousness lasted nearly ten years. Last year, I snapped. I couldn't stand it any longer-being the only speaker on the platform with gray hair, so I did a little experiment. Mine just happened to be in public, in front of thousands of people. Now, after three different hair colors, I think I've discovered a few things about life.

I always felt that when we are truly enlightened as a society, and we women are no longer afraid of our age (perhaps youth won't be worshipped like it is now), then we will all let our hair go natural and we'll look at each other with respectful curiosity and admiration. We will openly ask one another, "How did your hair get gray in that shade or pattern?" This I see in our future. It will be ideal. The shift has already begun. Now, when I travel outside of Los Angeles, especially when I'm in certain pockets of metropolitan populations like Denver, where I speak a lot, I will go to the gym and see half of the women with gray hair. It's just fantastic. And, the hair is so pretty, so soft, with a natural glow because chemicals aren't stripping it of its luster. I look at these women and for many of them, their hair radiates sheen.

Then I'm hit with a reality check: We're not there yet… Perhaps soon. I'm hoping. Alas, in my world--the world of, in the words of my Dad, "mental health and showbiz" – almost none of the women have gray hair.

Needless to say, I felt it was time for a change. I was tired of being the only speaker with gray hair at a convention. So, I had a brilliant idea, or so I thought. I'd go platinum.


Blond Hair:
When I decided to change the gray, I couldn't go straight to brown hair. I mean, no one would believe that I could have brown hair! I was one of those who grayed early, and the last time I was a brunette, I was in my twenties. So, I came up with a creative plan: I would transition with platinum hair. That way, when the gray roots grew out, they wouldn't show too much and I could go to the beauty parlor less often. I didn't have to go every three or four weeks for my clash with chemicals. I could go every six or eight weeks. Phew.

Besides, the platinum was supposed to make me look young. Like Carole Lombard or Jean Harlow. So, I went to the hairdresser and said, "Think Debbie Harry, think Annie Lenox in the 80's--Billy Idol." I still feel like a teenager, for Pete's sake. I have endless energy, so why not look the part? But it didn't work. All I looked like was a lady who had gray hair who decided to go platinum instead. Not only that, the color is apparently difficult to achieve. A pink highlighted "mistake" was corrected the next day with a soft orange color. Panic-stricken, I went to the beauty supply store where the friendly purple-headed clerk assured me I could banish the orange with a rinse from the 50's called "white minx" which diminished the orange hue to pale tangerine. All these chemicals fried my hair so I followed everyone's advice which ranged from hot oil treatments to raw eggs applied onto my head. I was fed up.


Brown Hair:
Then I had an epiphany; yes, another one. One day a client of mine was going to send a car to pick me up at the airport. She said, "What do you look like?" I replied, "Oh, I'm easy to spot; I'm short and dark." That's the way I think of myself. Then I said, "No, actually I'm not dark anymore, but maybe I should be." The woman asked, "What do you mean?" to which I replied, "I have platinum blond hair with black and gray roots." We both had a good laugh.

The brown hair is still new; only since May 4, 2000. There are still many pictures and brochures floating around with me smiling beneath another color. You may have seen them. (Even some of my products display the glowing, bright colors of silver or platinum.) It has been hilarious, hearing people's thoughts. I wonder if people hear themselves when they think they're giving me a compliment. "Oh, Mimi, you look twenty years younger!" Well, how old did they think I was?! Or they run up and tell me, "You look so much better!"

Stay tuned. There's no telling where I'll go from here. I'm open to whatever happens, because who I am on the inside is not who I am on the outside.

 

 

 


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